Lala’s Blog
Lala’s Bedtime Tales Blog is a helpful resource for individuals that enjoy erotica & spicy romance stories. The blog is for those searching for healthy relationship advice and sex tips from sexual wellness experts and resources about sexual health education and women’s wellness information from medical professionals and mental health specialists.
Seductive Surprises: A Guide To The Most Desired Sexy Gifts Of 2024
Hey there, Gorgeous! It's your favorite love guru, Lala, back with the ultimate guide to gifting in 2024 that's all about pleasure, liberation, and a whole lot of sexy. Whether it's wrapping your partner in the seductive embrace of the latest lingerie or shaking things up with a game that promises to reveal more than just secrets, I've got you covered. With picks that range from sinfully sweet to deliciously daring, this guide is your one-stop shop for all things spicy, ensuring your gift-giving game is as dynamic as your fantasies. So, why settle for the mundane when you can have the extraordinary at your fingertips?
Dive in with me, and let's explore the most desired sexy gifts of 2024 that are guaranteed to keep the passion burning bright, from naughty nights into unforgettable moments of intimate discovery. Because in the world of love and lust, the best gifts are the ones that keep on giving—pleasure, that is. Ready to turn up the heat? Let's make every occasion a reason to celebrate the sexy, indulgent, and utterly unforgettable.
Beyond Vanilla: Your Journey Into BDSM Pleasure
Fifty Shades of Grey brought mainstream attention to BDSM and empowered many people to speak up about their curiosity about this sexual practice. Although BDSM is a healthy expression of sexuality due to the stigma and shame around sex, BDSM is categorized or seen as a taboo sexual practice because it deviates from what many would consider traditional sexual activities.
Yet, BDSM is a top sexual fantasy for many individuals and more widely practiced than you'd think. Therefore, if you're like Bad Girl RiRi and whips and chains excite you, then more power to you because it's perfectly normal to enjoy kinky sex.
From Taboo To Woo-Hoo: The Art Of Backdoor Fun
Whether you're curious about anal play or someone who enjoys it, you're not alone. Sexual activities involving the anus are a relatively common sexual practice. Regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, many people find anal play pleasurable, fun, and enjoyable. Anal play has the potential to be a fun and exciting sexual experience because whether you're a penis or vulva owner, the anus is an erogenous zone or pleasure point on the body for many individuals.
The Polyamorous Playbook: Rethinking Relationship Rules
Polyamory translates to many loves and is one of the many diverse relationship structures under ethical non-monogamy. At its core, polyamorous relationships are based on the belief that love and intimacy are not limited resources and, therefore, it does not make sense to limit romantic relationships. This can take a variety of forms involving multiple one-on-one relationships as well as group dynamics. Keep reading for some myth-busting, types of polyamory, and tips to navigate the challenges of polyamory!
Why Every Woman Should Do A Boudoir Photoshoot
In its literal sense, a boudoir is defined as a woman's private bedroom or dressing room, so it only makes sense that a boudoir photoshoot would be considered a women's sexy photoshoot. Many of the boudoir photos you see probably are just that--women in lingerie in a bedroom setting. While these photos are absolutely sexy and beautiful, the actual experience itself is so much deeper and more powerful. The act of allowing yourself to bare it all, to let your walls down and be seen and captured by someone else, is the most liberating feeling you can experience. It is an initiation of returning home to your full vibrant, radiant and sensual self.
Deepen Your Intimacy With A Sexy Holiday Getaway
The holidays are an extremely stressful time of the year for many. But being stressed during the holidays doesn't mean that things between you and your intimate partner(s) can't equal a sexy time. Check out these five sexy holiday getaway ideas to deepen your intimacy and help you reconnect with your intimate partner(s) from Erica Rose, a sex-positive intimacy coach.
5 Ways Sexting Will Keep Your Sex Life From Feeling Like A Snooze Fest
Most of us have sent a steamy text message or two to our significant other(s). Freaky messages, formally known as sexting, are not a new concept. However, I think that we really downplay the benefits of sexting for both the individual and their relationship! Before we jump in, let’s define sexting. Sexting is using any technology, such as a phone, computer, etc., to send photos, videos, or messages that are sexual in nature. Given the definition of sexting, many individuals have engaged in sexting, whether with a steamy text message about what you want to do to your partner when you are in one another’s presence or a sexy video of you wearing lingerie and dancing to your favorite Beyonce’ song.
6 Tips To Fearlessly Explore Your Kinks
Kink can be a creative way to find pleasure and fulfillment and give people the opportunity to live out their fantasies. This is why kink education is essential: not only does it work to destigmatize kink and help people feel more comfortable with themselves, but it also gives people the opportunity to learn how to explore their kinks and interests free of fear, shame, or self-judgment.
What Every Woman Wishes She'd Known Her First Time
There are so many fictitious stories people are told about their first time having sex, getting their cherry popped, or losing their "virginity". It will be "magical" and "unforgettable", and if you wait for the "right person", the sex will be better and more fulfilling than you could ever imagine! But I am here to challenge that and give you some things to think about when engaging in sex for the first time. I will provide you with the education we all deserve to have to help make the first time you have sex truly enjoyable.
Sex Position of the Month: Fun Between the Cheeks
For both penis and vulva owners, the anus is an erogenous zone. In a recent survey, about 72% of Americans reported having tried anal play in their lifetime, and 42% reported enjoying it. Even though butt play is seen as a "taboo" form of sex, it's a relatively common sexual activity for people of all gender orientations and sexuality. Anal play is the sexual stimulation of the anus and rectum. Anal play includes stimulation of the anus with fingers, sex toys, mouth or tongue, and penis. It's even possible to have anal orgasms with proper education, communication, and preparation. The pleasure of anal can be experienced in solo and partner play. To ensure that anal sex is pleasurable and comfortable for both partners, sex positioning plays a significant role in the ability to appreciate the joys of anal play. Therefore, Lala will give you the ultimate tips and tricks to enjoying butt play by sharing with you four great sex positions to better help you discover the thrills of anal sex.
The Romance Remedy For A Sexless Marriage
According to a recent study, 15 percent of marriages are sexless marriages. They go anywhere from six months to one year without any sexual intercourse. Unfortunately, these stats lead to a higher rate of more than 50 percent of those marriages ending in divorce. Before we can address a problem, we have to look at potential causes disrupting your sex life: medical conditions, physical distance, incompatibility, loss of commitment and understanding for your significant other, loss of physical passion, resentment towards your significant other, and loss of attraction
You Won't Break My Soul: Self-Care Tips To Help You Heal From A Breakup
We've all been there before. I've been there more times than I'd like to count. The pain in your stomach like you just got sucker-punched. The obsessing thoughts of how they are doing without you. The uncomfortable conversations with family and friends where you must explain why y'all had to part ways. Many of us have had the experience of ending a relationship. Whether it's ending a relationship with an abusive partner, an inconsiderate best friend, or that horrible soul-sucking job, we have had to make the difficult decision to disrupt the chaos and choose peace by removing negative relationships from our life.
Sex Position of the Month: Perfecting the Art of Self-Pleasure
You don’t need a partner to enjoy sex! Masturbation is one of the safest ways to enjoy the benefits of sexual activity. Masturbation even has physical, mental, and sexual health benefits that can help make you an overall healthier person. Lala’s favorite reasons to engage in self-pleasure are mood improvement, stress reduction, an increase in sex drive, and most importantly, it helps you understand your body and desires. Due to the stigma of guilt, shame, and lack of education around masturbation, many individuals, especially vagina and vulva owners, shun this innate behavior. Also, many people don’t know where to start regarding the art of self-pleasure. Therefore, Lala will give you some tips and tricks for vagina and vulva owners to help perfect the Art of Self-Pleasure by shedding light on different positions you use while masturbating.
Roots to Rediscovery: Reclaiming Afro Eroticism
Sexuality, like Blackness, is both phenomenally natural and intrinsically political. To fully understand the story of Black people's presence in this country, you must acknowledge the reality of Black people's sexual acceptance and White supremacist sexual fears.
Sex Position of the Month: Kicking Up Oral Pleasure A Notch
Oral sex is a common part of sexual activity amongst many people regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation. However, one of the most significant gender gaps in oral sex is based on the enjoyment of giving oral. While women are more likely to engage in performing oral sex, they typically don't find it as enjoyable to perform as their male counterparts. A great way to fix this gender gap in oral sex is to make it more fun and pleasurable experience whether you're receiving or giving oral sex. So, to help you love going downtown on your partner(s), Lala provides you with four of her favorite sex positions that will keep oral sex from becoming a total snooze fest.
The Pleasures of Period Sex
Believe it or not, you can absolutely have sex while on your period! Shoot, we spend a third of our lives menstruating, which doesn't mean we need to spend a third of our lives avoiding sex either. I recently had a conversation with a friend, and she said, "Wait, people are having period sex!?" And yes, they sure are! According to a survey done by INTIMA, 82% of women have sex on their period, and here is why - as a menstruating individual there are many benefits to period sex.
Acknowledging and Healing from Sexual Trauma
Many people experience sexual assault in their lifetime. More than likely, you or someone you know has been victims of sexual assault. Yet, it's one of the most underreported violent crimes in the United States, and sexual trauma is a stigmatized discussion in our society, whether it happens to men or women. Like Domestic Violence, victims of sexual violence suffer in silence due to the shame and self-blame that can result from this heinous crime. Therefore, Lala's Bedtime Tales has partnered with me, Janet Bayramyan, licensed clinical social worker and therapist, to educate, create awareness, and cultivate understanding about sexual trauma and that healing is possible from this traumatic event in one's life.
Finding Your Sexual Voice in Intimate Relationships
Communicating is hard, okay! Especially in your day-to-day relationships, let alone your sexual or romantic relationships. However, it’s vital to be self-aware in how you best communicate with others and to be open and understanding of others’ styles based on their upbringing. Remember to find your voice in a sexual relationship. It would be best if you took the time to prioritize yourself and your pleasure. You cannot expect someone else to know what you want if you can’t communicate that to them. It takes lots of time, self-confidence, patience, and persistence with yourself, but surely you will get there and find your voice in the bedroom slowly.
Sex Position of the Month: Standing Sex for Tight Places
As human beings, we are sexual by nature. Yet sometimes, we find ourselves bored with our sex lives. But there are various ways to overcome dullness during your bedroom fun. A fun and challenging way to up the ante during sexy time with a partner is through the exploration of sex positions. While the basics may be an oldie but goody, it's always interesting to switch up the positions and the places. If you're adventurous or have fantasized about sex in public places because it turns you on with the idea of getting caught; then, these standing sex positions will help you live out your sexual fantasies. So, to help you become more daring in your sex positions, Lala provides you with four of her favorite sex positions that are perfect for small spaces and hidden places.
Dealing with Heartbreak During the Month of Romance
Grief is hard to experience, whether it be losing a loved one, a job, a dream, or a relationship. Speaking specifically about relationships, and even more specifically, romantic relationships, Valentine’s Day, and seeing everyone else’s love out loud and on display can make those aching feelings, and a shattered heart hurt that much more. But even if it feels like you are the only single person with no V-day plans this year, you are absolutely not, and there are still ways to have an enjoyable day.