Deepen Your Intimacy With A Sexy Holiday Getaway
The holidays are an extremely stressful time of the year for many. But being stressed out during the holidays doesn't mean that things between you and your intimate partner(s) can't equal SEXY. As humans, when we become stressed, the first thing we take off the table is sex, when that should be one of the last things that get deprioritized in our lives. Achieving orgasm releases endorphins and lower stress and anxiety. Are stress and anxiety the main factors causing you to feel pressure to perform during sex and keeping you from achieving the "Big O"? Then sexy getaways are the perfect way for you to continue intimacy and shift your brain to an unapologetically sex-positive mindset!
Sex is an umbrella term for many things and isn't limited to just penetration and orgasm, as many of us believe. I want you to focus on intimacy with yourself and/or your partner(s) this holiday season to help alleviate the holiday stress. Intimacy should be an all-encompassing process that involves mental, physical, and emotional connectedness. Sometimes we find it hard to even create intimacy as a connection with ourselves or our partners because of our extensive daily to-do list, children, work, the holidays, and everything else life throws at us.
As an Unapologetic Sex-Positive Intimacy Coach and creator of the Sexy Getaways Guide, I want to introduce my top five ways to reconnect or deepen intimate connections with yourself or your partner this holiday season. I will provide you with various ways to remove yourself and/or your partner(s) from daily life stressors so you can better seek, experience, and prioritize the pleasure you deserve.
Defining Your Sexy Getaway
What is a Sexy Getaway, you might ask?
A Sexy Getaway is where you create a space without distractions to reconnect with your partner(s) or yourself. This can be anything from getting cozy in a tent camping to booking a destination weekend getaway.
Check out my five spicy tips to help you plan and experience the ultimate sexy getaways this holiday season:
1. Stay Budget-Friendly By Exploring The Places Around You
The top spot for my budget-friendly couples is to explore your own area. CAMPING. Many states offer dispersed camping (aka free camping areas), while others offer a low rate to pitch a tent for the night (and we aren't just talking about the one happening in those pants…). For those boujee individuals, there are options to upgrade to cabins to meet your glamping needs. While planning a weekend or night in the woods, think of creating a sexy space for you and your partner. A space where you can both connect on a mental and emotional level. Without service or a phone charger, there is no point in relying on technology to be your source of entertainment (which also is a significant distractor for intimate moments with ourselves and others). Suppose you struggle with conversation starters, setting the mood, or sexy activities. In that case, I advise you to grab a fun game to help the topics flow or help build the anticipation for physical intimacy. I highly recommend {AND THE} Couples Edition by The Skin Deep. Make sure on your packing list that you grab a Bluetooth speaker to play that sexy playlist off of Spotify, a cozy warm blanket, and some firewood for a cozy outdoor fire, and leave those PJs at home because you won't need sleepwear for this sexy getaway.
2. Pretend To Be Someone Else For The Night
Do you enjoy dressing up, pretending to be an alter ego, or playing someone who doesn't represent your daily self? Then, role play for an evening. Do you want no interruptions on your next Sexy Night out? Without interruptions or the chances of running into your in-laws, your kids' schoolteacher, or boss while enjoying an intimate night out? Head to Airbnb and book an inexpensive home outside of town. Heading out of town for a night and adding role play to your sex life assists in relationships where your home can be a distraction, from the dirty dishes to the dog staring at you while you are trying to get sexy with your partner. You two can be whoever you want to be without running into people who'd recognize you. Get a special outfit (whether for the bedroom or a night out on the town) that you usually wouldn't wear at home or around your area. Shop together online for a new sex toy, accessory, or something you both want to try out, and get it shipped to where you are staying (almost all adult websites ship discreetly).
Pro Tip: To really spice up the fun of this sexy getaway, challenge each other to be in character for the duration of the entire sexy trip.
3. Explore Each Other's Minds As An Ultimate Bae-cation
Are you looking for a Bae-cation? Cozy up in front of the fireplace, and grab a glass of wine, bourbon, or tea. Explore each other's minds, bodies, and souls with this intimate experience. Need a guide to opening up conversations at home around what arouses you and your hard no's when it comes to sex? Use a Green Light | Red Light list to share with your partner in a non-communicative way about your sexual desires. Each of you separately lists your desires and hard no's, and after filling out the form, swap your lists. This will help you learn and better understand each other on a sexual connectivity level.
Pro Tip: If you're in a long-term relationship, a wants, wills, and won'ts activity is a great way to rediscover the pleasures you want to experience together. This sexy activity will allow you to discover your and your partner's new sexual fantasies, too. Over time and as we mature, our mindset and thoughts change around specific activities, including sexual experiences and desires.
4. Get Kinky At A Sex-Themed Airbnb
Have you ever wanted to try something out of your sexual comfort zone? Did you know there are select places to book for the night or weekend that include all things kink? With sanitization between each stay, select locations offer room service. You can explore all your fantasies without the hefty price tag of purchasing all the accessories, including a St. Andrew's or an X-shaped cross, sex swings, sex furniture, bondage tools, stripper poles, and riding crops, to name a few available kink exploration devices. You simply pack your toothbrush, and the other amenities are taken care of for your sexy stay. To search these types of styles, check out Kinkbnb or Airbnb for sexy places that fit the kinky aesthetic to fit your sexual fantasy mood.
5. Make Your Own At-Home Sexy Time Space
Lastly, but most importantly, I want to share how to create your own sexy space in your current home.
Your bedroom or a designated room should always be a space that allows connection on any level, an area clear of distractions. If you are looking to get a gift for your partner, and vice versa, then gift each other a bedroom makeover. I am not saying go all Fifty Shades Of Grey red room, but to create a space that is sexy, that is soft, and intimate, where you can feel comfortable being authentically you. An unpopular opinion is to REMOVE the television from your bedroom (unless it is used to view pornography together to get in the mood for a sexy time, then it has no place in the bedroom). A television in the bedroom is the easiest way to create a distraction and "crutch" for your sex life.
Invest in luxurious sheets, and I recommend Egyptian cotton or satin. Both have a great feel against your naked skin. Grab textures, but don't go overboard with the pillows on the bed. You want to create feel-good textures that create different sensations against the skin and allow you to stay in the moment during sexual activities. Invest in a good music system, and a Bluetooth speaker is a wonderful way to play the sexy tunes you will use to create a sexy bedroom vibe. A sexy playlist also helps bring you more present to the pleasure you are experiencing during physical intimacy. Keeping your sex toys within reach is a must because the saying, "out of sight, out of mind,” is extremely true in this situation. You can keep them out of sight but within a beautiful display. End-of-the-bed storage benches work well for those with a more extensive variety of sex toys and accessories.
PRO TIP: An End-of-the-bed storage bench can double as an additional surface to experience sex differently. Even a cute box with a lid on the bedside table can be a great storage idea.
Invest in lighting, a wall-mounted electric fireplace, remote-controlled candles, and an Alexa lighting source. They all work. What vibe do you want to create? What budget do you have? Lighting has a huge impact on creating a sexy space. It highlights all the sexy parts and brings a sensual ambiance into the room. Remove clutter, remove images of your family members, and have a space for the both of you to get lost in each other.
Relieve Stress This Holiday By Making Time To Get Sexy
Make this holiday season sexy, whether you are building a sexy space in your home for a staycation, booking a kinky bae-cation, or going on a sexy camping trip. The holidays should be a time of the year filled with MORE connective pleasurable sexual experiences.
Xo. Erica Rose
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