Lala’s Blog
Lala’s Bedtime Tales Blog is a helpful resource for individuals that enjoy erotica & spicy romance stories. The blog is for those searching for healthy relationship advice and sex tips from sexual wellness experts and resources about sexual health education and women’s wellness information from medical professionals and mental health specialists.
Why Doesn't My Partner Want As Much Sex As Me
Mismatched sex drives are a widespread sexual concern, especially for couples in long-term relationships. Mismatched libidos are the common cause of couples seeking relationship help in sex therapy or marital counseling. However, before we dive into how to fix libido differences, let's talk basics. Sexual desire, the want and/or need to have sex, is what controls our libido or sex drive. Most men, women, and non-binary individuals have a naturally innate desire for sexual relations. It's essential to understand your desire and sexual wants because it makes it easier to understand what makes sex more enjoyable for you, making you want to engage in sex more often. The lack of understanding of what pleases you in the bedroom is where you might need to start to overcome the sex drive disconnect between you and your intimate partner(s).
Why Every Woman Should Do A Boudoir Photoshoot
In its literal sense, a boudoir is defined as a woman's private bedroom or dressing room, so it only makes sense that a boudoir photoshoot would be considered a women's sexy photoshoot. Many of the boudoir photos you see probably are just that--women in lingerie in a bedroom setting. While these photos are absolutely sexy and beautiful, the actual experience itself is so much deeper and more powerful. The act of allowing yourself to bare it all, to let your walls down and be seen and captured by someone else, is the most liberating feeling you can experience. It is an initiation of returning home to your full vibrant, radiant and sensual self.
Dazzled by the Devil
Alannah Walsh, the “Gorgeous Rose” of the Irish Mafia, is marveled at for her beauty. She’s a young woman with many hopes and dreams, but those dreams are squashed by her eldest brother, the Irish Mafia’s boss, when it’s been signed in blood that she will marry the boss of the Greek Mafia to create a strong alliance for the organized crime groups. Will Alannah rise to the occasion and be the perfect dutiful mafia wife or will she crash and burn under the pressures of the mafia world?
Pussy Knowledge Equals Pleasure: Vulva Anatomy and Pleasure
"Pussy” is the universal word people often use when referring to the Vulva and Vagina! It is widespread for people to use the terms, vulva, and vagina synonymously. But, they’re not interchangeable terms. Not having a clear understanding of the anatomy of female genitalia or the “pussy” is one of the key factors that play in the pleasure or orgasm gap that’s prevalent between cisgender women and men in heterosexual relationships. Therefore, the key to having pleasurable sex as a vulva owner is to understand your body and its pleasure spots or erogenous zones.
Sexual and Reproductive Rights Are Human Rights
As we close out Universal Human Rights Month, it's a good time to reflect on the protections you have for your rights. Fundamental human rights are inherent, regardless of nationality, ethnic origin, color, or sexual orientation. And living in the United States gives you fundamental freedoms like the right to life, education, and work.
Even though you may not think about it, having reproductive and sexual health choices are also a fundamental human right. Decisions you make about your body, when to have children, who to marry, or your gender identity should be your own. So, having access to accurate information and health services and living a life free from sexual violence is imperative.
So here are some critical facts about reproductive rights to consider as you continue to honor the work that has gone into ensuring the protection of everyone's freedom.
Holidate From Hell
Everly Edward’s first semester of her sophomore year of college has been Hell! She’s tutoring her nemesis, an all-star college athlete. She’s over schoolwork and chaotic college parties. So, she jumps at the opportunity to spend the holiday break with a man she’s met on a dating app but hasn’t quite met in person. Will Santa be gifting her with the man of her dreams this holiday or a catfished Christmas surprise?
Deepen Your Intimacy With A Sexy Holiday Getaway
The holidays are an extremely stressful time of the year for many. But being stressed during the holidays doesn't mean that things between you and your intimate partner(s) can't equal a sexy time. Check out these five sexy holiday getaway ideas to deepen your intimacy and help you reconnect with your intimate partner(s) from Erica Rose, a sex-positive intimacy coach.
Let's Stop Normalizing Painful Sex
The mood is set, the moment is right, and you are with someone that shares amazing sexual chemistry with you. There's just one problem-- Dyspareunia, or painful sexual intercourse, occurs, dampening the mood for you and making the experience lackluster. Dyspareunia affects 3-18% of individuals, regardless of gender, though it occurs more commonly in people with vulvas1. According to the American College of Gynecology, approximately 3 out of 4 women will experience dyspareunia during their lifetimes.
5 Ways Sexting Will Keep Your Sex Life From Feeling Like A Snooze Fest
Most of us have sent a steamy text message or two to our significant other(s). Freaky messages, formally known as sexting, are not a new concept. However, I think that we really downplay the benefits of sexting for both the individual and their relationship! Before we jump in, let’s define sexting. Sexting is using any technology, such as a phone, computer, etc., to send photos, videos, or messages that are sexual in nature. Given the definition of sexting, many individuals have engaged in sexting, whether with a steamy text message about what you want to do to your partner when you are in one another’s presence or a sexy video of you wearing lingerie and dancing to your favorite Beyonce’ song.
Thanksgiving Homecoming
In Thanksgiving Homecoming, Aleena Munoz relives the humiliation of a breakup with her long-time Marine boyfriend, who’s back from deployment. She’s not looking forward to Thanksgiving with her family, which will grill her about her non-existent love life. Will she find the perfect decoy to survive this Thanksgiving, or will it backfire in her face?
Six Sexpert Tips To Know Before Buying Sex Toys
There are so many sex toys out there on the market that it can be stressful picking the right sex toy that would be most beneficial to your sexual wellness and lifestyle. Bri, Self-fullness and Lovership Coach, is providing expert tips and knowledge about everything you need to know about purchasing sex toys. So, get expert sex education, sex toy information, and sex toy recommendations from this sexpert blog.
A Popular Medical Option For Women Who Can't Achieve Orgasm
It's common for many women to find it difficult to orgasm. There's a psychological, emotional, and physical aspects to sex, and any of these variables can interfere with an individual's ability to reach orgasm. Most commonly, when a woman has trouble reaching orgasm, it's due to a lack of understanding of the female anatomy and the absence of communication of pleasure and needs in the bedroom between partners. However, this may not always be the reason why you're falling short when experiencing a sexual climax. Sexual dysfunction is as common in women as it is in men. But it's also important to note that there could be many issues as to why a woman may not orgasm. Besides orgasmic dysfunction that can affect women sexually and cause female sexual dysfunction, other ailments can play a role in the dissatisfaction of a woman's sex life. For example, these ailments can include low libido, painful sex, difficulty in arousal, or an aversion to sex. These are a few of many variables that are common and real issues that can cause women distress and affect their relationships. The good news is there are many medical treatments available that women don't know about that can help with their orgasm difficulties. Currently, the most popular medical option is the Orgasm Shot, most commonly known as the O-shot. Today, we will answer all your questions about the O-shot's benefits and risks.
Fortunes of Doom
It’s spooky season! So, Lala’s kicking it off with a hot erotic Halloween story. This Halloween erotic sex story centers around a young woman with psychic abilities that finds herself in a crazy predicament when she meets a devastatingly handsome billionaire, Garrett Sullivan, while working as Miss Diamond, a fortune teller at the local circus. Miss Diamond is torn between doing everything in her power to keep him from meeting a twisted fate or living with his life circumstances eating at her conscience if she lets this man meet an unspeakable demise. Can she protect Garrett without getting her heart involved?
6 Tips To Fearlessly Explore Your Kinks
Kink can be a creative way to find pleasure and fulfillment and give people the opportunity to live out their fantasies. This is why kink education is essential: not only does it work to destigmatize kink and help people feel more comfortable with themselves, but it also gives people the opportunity to learn how to explore their kinks and interests free of fear, shame, or self-judgment.
What No One Tells You About Menopause
According to the North America Menopause Society (NAMS), every woman who survives the middle-age stage of life will experience menopause, which usually starts between 40 and 58 years. The fundamental mechanism of menopause undergoes activities of the brain (hypothalamic-pituitary-ovarian (HPO) axis), a series of changes as a woman traverses through menopause. The primary driver of change is ovarian follicular depletion, which begins even before birth and results in a progressive, exponential loss of follicles over a woman's lifetime, characterized by changes in patterns of the menstrual cycle and a decrease in hormone levels. The menopause process symptoms affect body composition, including hot flashes, night sweats, flushing, vaginal atrophy, insomnia, other sleeping difficulties, increase in cardiac problems, bone depletion (osteoporosis), mood swings, and psychosocial well-being.
The Most Common Hormonal Disorder in Women: PCOS Awareness
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) is a common women's health issue. PCOS is a hormonal disorder that affects around 1 in 10 women of reproductive age. Although the cause of PCOS is unknown, it is thought to be related to an imbalance in the levels of certain hormones, including insulin and testosterone. The hormonal imbalance creates issues in the ovaries. The ovaries make the egg that is released each month as part of a healthy menstrual cycle. PCOS is a reproductive syndrome that keeps the egg from being released during ovulation.
Making Dean's List
It’s Fall time! So, that means school is back in session! Many new adults are back at college, getting drunk, partying until the sun rises, studying hard, and having lots of hookups. In Making Dean’s List, Rosalie Blanc is a studio art major that will do anything to pass her Biology class. Even if that means accepting help from her nemesis, Dean Archer. Dean Archer is a dominant alpha male used to getting his way and will stop at nothing to get Rosalie into his bed. Will things heat up between these two so much that everything around them will crash and burn? Read to find out more.
What Every Woman Wishes She'd Known Her First Time
There are so many fictitious stories people are told about their first time having sex, getting their cherry popped, or losing their "virginity". It will be "magical" and "unforgettable", and if you wait for the "right person", the sex will be better and more fulfilling than you could ever imagine! But I am here to challenge that and give you some things to think about when engaging in sex for the first time. I will provide you with the education we all deserve to have to help make the first time you have sex truly enjoyable.
Contraception Overload: A Guide To Birth Control Methods
When you hear safer sex, contraception commonly comes to mind to prevent pregnancy. However, choosing the best birth control method can be daunting since there are so many options. But the confusion on which birth control is the safest or best for your body shouldn't keep you from practicing safe sex. If you are sexually active, it's pertinent to protect yourself and your partner(s) by making sexually healthy choices, including using birth control and condoms. There are so many options beyond hormonal birth control pills, so here at Lala's Bedtime Tales, we want to arm you with sexual health knowledge to make choosing the proper contraception to prevent unplanned pregnancies easier.
Sex Position of the Month: Fun Between the Cheeks
For both penis and vulva owners, the anus is an erogenous zone. In a recent survey, about 72% of Americans reported having tried anal play in their lifetime, and 42% reported enjoying it. Even though butt play is seen as a "taboo" form of sex, it's a relatively common sexual activity for people of all gender orientations and sexuality. Anal play is the sexual stimulation of the anus and rectum. Anal play includes stimulation of the anus with fingers, sex toys, mouth or tongue, and penis. It's even possible to have anal orgasms with proper education, communication, and preparation. The pleasure of anal can be experienced in solo and partner play. To ensure that anal sex is pleasurable and comfortable for both partners, sex positioning plays a significant role in the ability to appreciate the joys of anal play. Therefore, Lala will give you the ultimate tips and tricks to enjoying butt play by sharing with you four great sex positions to better help you discover the thrills of anal sex.