Sex Position of the Month: Redefining Missionary

September is "Pleasure Your Mate Awareness" month. Therefore, Lala’s position of the month is a lovers' choice that allows for the most affection through variations. This oldie but goodie is everyone’s go-to move and is considered a traditional favorite and most common position for sexual escapades.  Yes, we’re talking about Missionary! People enjoy missionary worldwide because it's a comfortable position that heterosexual and same-sex couples can enjoy during sexual activity. This amazing position centers women’s orgasmic pleasure with numerous degrees of clitoral stimulation and penetration depth.

Historically, another name for this position is “Man-on-Top because generally, the female partner lies on their back and the male partner lies on top of them while they face each other, and the two partners engage in vaginal intercourse. But as a new-age approach, Lala will call this position by another name, "Dom-on-Top." In a heterosexual couple, the male partner assumes the position on top. In a same-sex couple, the partner with the strap-on or the dominant partner of choice gets on top of the bottom partner. The partner on their back spreads their legs wide enough for the top partner to thrust inside of them vaginally or anally.While the bottom partner can thrust to meet their top partner’s rhythm, the majority of the work and sexual pleasure is determined by the Dom-on-Top. Even though this is an ideal position for emotional closeness and connection, it's not the most physically stimulating. Therefore, with these four easy variations shown below, Lala will help you keep the intimacy alive while making it oh so sexier and more pleasurable.

Coital Alignment Technique

Even though the coital alignment technique is one of the more difficult variations of missionary, it’s Lala's first choice because it increases a woman's chance of orgasm. The coital alignment is a modification of missionary specifically designed to maximize clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse.

How To Best Perform This Position:

The couple gets into the classic positioning for missionary sex. The top partner in this sexual position angles themselves above the one that lies on their back. But the partner on top moves upward slightly while the bottom partner shifts their hips down slightly so the penis or strap-on is downward. This positioning allows the female partner on the bottom's clitoris and pubic bone to come into contact with the top partner's penis shaft or strap-on and pubic bone. Opposite of the traditional missionary position, the pleasure comes from a pelvic grinding motion and not an inward and outward movement. Relative to the bottom partner, the top partner moves downward during the inward stroke and upward for the outward stroke. It's best if the bottom partner wraps their legs around the top partner and leads the upward rocking stroke while the top partner leads the downward rocking stroke. These sexual thrusts and grinds will develop and peak naturally into a euphoric climax. Once again, this is a more advanced variation of missionary that will take practice. But it will be worth your while once you get the hang of it!

Tips To Make It Most Enjoyable:

The backside or dorsal side of the penis or strap-on should be pressing against the clitoris in a downward angle. The sexual movements focus on pelvic grinding without leverage from the top partner's arms or legs.  Placing a pillow under the bottom partner's lower back or hips can help better angle their pelvis for easier grinding against the shaft of the penis or strap-on.

Butterfly Missionary Modification

The butterfly missionary variation is extremely easy to accomplish. This position is super pleasurable for both partners involved but there is a slight loss of intimacy in this position due to the lack of eye contact. However, due to the positioning of the bottom partner's body, stimulation of the bottom partner's nipple and clitoris with their own hands or yours adds intimacy.

How To Best Perform This Position:

The bottom partner lies at the edge of the bed, desk, or ottoman while the partner with the strap-on or penis stands or kneels on a pillow in front of them. For the best angle, the vulva owner or bottom partner will lie back with their legs down and feet flat on the floor or bed frame. The partner with the penis or strap-on thrusts into the partner in a way that allows for deep penetration.

Tips To Make It Most Enjoyable:

The penis owner or partner with the strap-on can make sexual intercourse more intense by holding onto the bottom partner’s upper thighs to increase power and pleasure while thrusting. If you enjoy sex toys in the bedroom for a more intense and hotter orgasm, the top or bottom partner can place a bullet vibrator on the clitoris while engaging in the Butterfly sex position.

Meet-N-Greet Sex Technique

What makes the Meet-N-Greet modification a top pick for Lala is that the vulva owner or bottom partner does most of the work. The Meet-N-Greet is a reverse take on traditional missionary. Instead of the partner with the penis or strap-on thrusting down into the bottom partner, the vulva owner or bottom partner is thrusting their pelvis up, controlling the speed, rhythm, and pleasure of both partners.

 How To Best Perform This Position:

Similar to the classic missionary positioning, the partner with the penis or strap-on is on top while the bottom partner is beneath them with their legs spread wide on either side of their partner's hips. The bottom partner raises their hips repeatedly to meet their top partner, instead of the top partner initiating the movement by thrusting downward.

 Tips To Make It Most Enjoyable:

For this to be a pleasurable sex position, there needs to be some space between both partners. The top partner should prop their torso all the way up on their hands, almost as if they were positioning themselves for doggy style. The top partner can spice it up by playing with the bottom's breasts and clitoris for extra stimulation.

The Drill Position

Lala saved the best for last, the Drill Position. The Drill Position is unique because it combines the best of both worlds - classic missionary position and coital alignment technique! This is a very pleasurable position because it's relatively easy to do while allowing you to feel every inch of your partner during sexual intercourse. The Drill Position allows super deep penetration, creating an intense G-spot stimulation for a vulva owner and incredible orgasms for both partners. This is an oh-so-sexy must-try position that all couples will enjoy!

How To Best Perform This Position:

You should start in missionary with the penis owner or partner with the strap-on on top while the vulva owner or bottom partner lies on their back with the top partner between their thighs. Then, the bottom partner or vulva owner raises their legs up with their knees at a ninety-degree angle and wraps them around their partner's hips or waist. The partner with the penis or strap-on begins to thrust into the bottom partner, as deep as the bottom partner wants it.

Tips To Make It Most Enjoyable:

Once the bottom partner wraps their legs around their partner's waist or hips, they should cross their ankles behind the top partner's back. That way, the bottom partner grips themselves to the top partner and thrusts or pulls themselves into them. For deep penetration, more skin-on-skin contact, and comfortability of the bottom partner, place a pillow under their lower back.

Sex doesn’t ever have to be boring so, make sure it’s always enjoyable! All It takes is simple modifications, tricks, and tips to keep the sex hot! Subscribe to Lala’s Bedtime Tales Newsletter and follow @LalasBedtimeTales on social media for sex tips and tricks to spice up your sex life! Also, check out Lala's Bedtime Tales Podcast and Lala's Oh So Exclusive Patreon account for even more content! If you’re browsing for sexy pleasure products or cute giftable items, then check out Lala’s Pleasure Shop.

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